Wanna know more about the one you wanna spend the rest of your life with ?

I have been fiddling around to find some spare time to write about my thoughts on this fairly new concept to India, called "Live-in". Flurry of thoughts kept hindering me for a long time after I saw this.



Frankly, I seriously fell in love with this. This is the title song of "Kaadhalikka neramillai" means "There is no time for love". This brand new serial, filmed entirely in Singapore, is about two working professionals, Shakti [Prajin] and Divya [Chandra Lakshmanan] meet by chance, fall in love and then go through a series of changes in life. These two characters seek answers to some of life's greatest questions on love. How do these two individuals and their love develop?. Check out this new age soap opera from Monday to Thursday at 9 p.m., on Vijay TV. Its a pleasure for me to wait till somebody uploads it on youtube.

I have had a long discussion about this with my friends, room mates, friends back in India, UK, US etc. No doubt the serial has travelled continents (Wonder how ?). This is a brief background of whatever has happened so far. Shakti and Divya like each other. However, the thought of spending the rest of the life with one another made them realise that they don't know each other really well. After a few episodes of romantic drama, they both agree to live-in with each other in the (realistic) sense.
Before you get into conclusions here, live-in doesnt mean having sex. It is just two friends living in the same house trying to understand the original traits of each other, where they don't live in a fancy world where they do things to make the other person like him/her, rather live upto their individual's original way of life as long as they dont disturb each other mentally as well as physically. The concept was first brought up to India in the "Salaam Namaste" movie, but the it was crucified before inception, because of the unexpected curves, flavours of a Hindi movie.(Perharps!! Thats just a Bollywood movie) However, in here both of them live up to their promises not crossing their individual borders, put into a self-test under live circumstances and get into a stage where they really love each other, in the deepest sense of the meaning of 'Love'. The serial is still on. But back to my view point about this. I am not saying here that this is the best option. But I wud strongly suggest to give it a second thought about this before eliminating it the moment you here the name (It doesnt always strike a ring but still !!)

I agree the traditional way of finding your life partner is the least responsible job that you have rather counts for your parent's sleepless night. If its me who's gonna live the rest of my life with somebody whom I never met rather my parents know abt him/her really well(and knows that he/she is the best fit for my life) makes least sense to this stupid 10-gallon head. Alright, assuming Indian mentality is now slowly turning towards western direction in trying to choose their life partner by themselves. The most common and frustrating things in life, like no time for breakfast, no time for Television, work ,job , home coming, classes (life's too hectic to find a place in your busy schedule to give time for girl/boy friend). Even more common thing that happens in those chut weekend meetings, dating is that both guy and girl puts up with their goody goody, cheerful looks such that both like each other very much and under those circumstances the true nature of the boy/girl ( Am not saying he/she is cruel ), but then the originality in the boy/girl disappears for that rosy period of love. People tend to forget the saying "Be yourself". And thats the very reason why not all post-married life goes with the similar sense of love that existed before marriage.

I am not doing a research here on Love nor Live-in relation. But am just trying to emphasize that its only when you live-in together that you tend to forget that you need to put up a really good show, rather you try to be yourself. Living your life upto fullest of your desires and dreams with your friend who may be sharing and spending the rest of their life with you. Its not too hard to find counterexamples for this lemma. As always exceptions may be there. But One has to be true to his heart and let the rest speak for itself. The fear of failure has its own pitfalls. It all boils down to the amount of trust in you for the other person and for the trust the other person share with yourself.

Newton is a genius for his 3rd law of (e)motion ("Every (ac/emo)tion has equal and opposite reaction" --- It totally makes sense and has the deepest meanings inside it.) I happened to see one of the most recent light headed, without emotional psentiments(rare occurence!!)a tamil movie named "Pirivom Santhippom" (Lets part now and meet you later). It sounded like the most stunning hard core crying mentally tortured emotional kind of a movie. But this movie turned out to be that light, thin wave of clean air that whizzles thru you at the beach (rare occurence isnt it). Cheran and Sneha played an excellent role in bringing out the traits of the personalities that the director imagined. The guy and the girl don't really know each other but the husband pours in extra large size of love and care for which wife reacts in a very positive manner. Before it gets too late, the hubby understands the original attitude of his wife and brings her back to the place where she always wanted to be.

Contrasting thoughts. All said and done, when it comes to me, am I gonna choose the former path.
The procedure involves several steps.
Step 1:- Get a Friend who is a girl.
Step 2:- Do I really like her ?
Step 3 : Do I fully know her ?
Step 4:- Do I really wanna spend the rest of my life with her ? Before answering this question pause for a minute, go back to step 3 with 'I' and 'her' positions shifted.
Step n:- Blah Blah Blah ( Do you see the pain ? )
The latter means I need to be a perfect husband for the perfect wife,(Isnt that all age old myths ? ).

As always its the problem of choices that makes life so complicated. But what makes life interesting is having known the choice that you have already made and the path that leads to the realisation of that choice is really exciting .........